Let’s Talk About Ice Breakers (And Why They Often Miss the Mark)

I am not the only one that is not a fan of ice breakers.

I try to stay neutral on my blog, I really do. I avoid labeling things as strictly “good” or “bad.” But as a former classroom teacher who’s spent countless Thursday evenings and summer sessions playing ice breakers... I’m going to say it… Ice Breakers are horrible. 

At this point in my professional life, if I attend a session that kicks off with an ice breaker, I have no problem politely stepping out, or taking a well-timed “bathroom” break. And based on the number of people I see wandering the hallways during these activities, I know I’m not the only one.

 I believe Ice Breakers  were created with good intentions. At some point, someone asked: “How can I get participants engaged and lighten the mood?” They had a lightbulb moment and thought, Games! Games are fun! 

And at first, maybe they were. But over time, ice breakers became overused, gimmicky, and, frankly, a massive time sink. I often see trainers using them as a default anchored in the belief that “competition is good” or “games are fun.” But if you’ve read my other blog posts, you know those assumptions are much more complex than they seem. 

 Adults want to be treated with respect. They want dignity, relevance, and information that will benefit them professionally or personally.  We are all busy, if your audience is  giving you time away from their job or if they are a teacher with a million things to do before they leave for the day, they deserve to walk away from a training with something that is going to benefit them.  

 Instead of defaulting to ice breakers, ask yourself: What can I offer that truly benefits the people in the room? How can I build authentic engagement without sacrificing time, relevance, or trust?

There are better alternatives than ice breakers, more meaningful ways to connect with your audience, especially adults without resorting to ice breakers. If you are not sure how or where to start contact us!!

Let’s raise the bar. Your audience deserves it.